tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1332396003029589596.post3609007264425156510..comments2024-03-15T07:08:13.838-04:00Comments on From Hot To Not: The Fat Girl Diaries: Weight Loss!?LaurenDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14263737696364070905noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1332396003029589596.post-27560448102010722322010-03-14T15:34:20.358-04:002010-03-14T15:34:20.358-04:00Lauren,
Don't get me wrong...seeking counseli...Lauren,<br /><br />Don't get me wrong...seeking counseling is certainly a healthy step...I just don't want you to get addicted to it...very easy to do.<br /><br />While easier said than done, once you are convinced of your own worth than you can begin cutting out any toxic relationships in your life. Of course when it comes to family, it is ideal to try and repair them by setting firm rules along with the consequences.<br /><br />In this life, you can't count on anyone else (including your family) to validate your worth. As followers, we can provide support, but not validation.<br /><br />I know you are alone...I too have few full-time friends accept my wife. I have difficulty creating meaningful friendships because I don't always feel that I have anything to bring to the table. I know that is not the case, though. And not the case for you...it is okay not to have the huge co-dependent network. Yes, have a few close people you can share your hopes, fears, dreams, good times, etc., but celebrate your self-reliance as well...that is what will really get you through the toughest times.<br /><br />Kyle<br /><a href="kgershman.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Getting Better and Better</a>Kylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00235073044536622230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1332396003029589596.post-33286843551198553472010-03-14T15:24:43.243-04:002010-03-14T15:24:43.243-04:00thanks kyle i do really agree with you!! i am a hu...thanks kyle i do really agree with you!! i am a huge over analyzer sometimes i wish i did not go to university because thats all they teach you lol analyze and pick apart and i somehow turned that on myself!!<br /><br />you are right my mental block is ME however I think counselling would definitely help me with some other issues aka family and past stuff. but i totally agree that the weight loss change can only come from me i am really really trying to make myself do it just need a little help from people like you so thanks :)LaurenDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14263737696364070905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1332396003029589596.post-83680165605511367892010-03-14T15:11:41.033-04:002010-03-14T15:11:41.033-04:00There may be some infinitesimal percentage of the ...There may be some infinitesimal percentage of the population with a true "defect" that hinders their weight loss, but I know I'm not one of them and most people hope to have this "defect" as an rationalization for their challenges in losing weight. My harsh advice...stop looking for the defect. Sure, you could spend hours in counseling (and I have) going through analysis to find the root causes...forget about it. It doesn't help.<br /><br />The only "Defect" is not truly choosing to get better...not recognizing your worth and value to take action and keep taking action.<br /><br />I do have an addiction to gratification, but that isn't a defect per se, it is just a personality element that I recognize and have to address. I get gratification from food, so it is something that I keep on my toes about. But, my addiction to gratification can also be leveraged in my favor since losing weight and getting healthy is also gratifying...exercising and seeing the changes in my body, personality, capabilities, etc. is also gratifying.<br /><br />I'm a big over-analyzer...and you seem to fit that pattern as well.<br /><br />Stop thinking and start doing...start doing whatever you think will work (as long as it isn't harmful)...you will not "think" yourself into health.<br /><br />Assess your worth, make your decision to get better, and get out there...you'll have our support.<br /><br />Kyle<br /><a href="http://kgershman.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Getting Better and Better</a>Kylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00235073044536622230noreply@blogger.com